Woman Hides the Fact That She Can Understand Her Boyfriend's Native Language, Catches Him Bragging in Front of Her About Cheating

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    r/AITAH u/False Quiet526 • 17h AITA for not telling my boyfriend i could understand his language this whole time
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    I (18F), have been with my boyfriend (19M) for 2 years now. This all started when we first met 3 years ago. I was new at our high school and he introduced me to his friend group, which had mostly french speakers. I've never been confident with my french speaking due to insecurity about my accent, but i can understand the language perfectly, I was just too embarrassed to let them know because I was scared they'd ask me to try speak french with them.
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    I got really close with the friend group, and my boyfriend and I got together after one year of speaking. My not speaking french had never been a problem because he would speak english around me and always made sure his friends did the same, and it went on for so long than I just didn't have the heart to tell him that I could understand them anyways.
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    The problem started in uni. We both got a house off campus together, but my boyfriend was always coming back really late. I had convinced myself that he was probably occupied with uni stuff but the other night I overheard him talking on the phone to one of his french friends about how he'd hooked up with 3 different girls at the same time and I was completely baffled.
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    I confronted him, but instead of being apologetic, he got mad that i could actually understand what he was saying. I tried to come up with an excuse and say i managed to pick up the language after all the time we've been together but he doesn't believe me since he never speaks french around me and he said he can't trust me anymore.
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    He's staying at a friends house right now and I don't know if i'm at fault here for not telling him i understand french or if the real problem is him cheating... AITAH, and if yes, what do i do? ✩ 7,817 32,385 D
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    Flirty_katrina • 17h It's so unfair that he's trying to twist this to make it your fault. You deserve way better than that kind of treatment. Reply 8.2k
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    Discombobulatedslug ⚫ 16h "he said he can't trust me anymore" ... 3.7k
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    Nekawaii19 13h Right? OP, at this point it doesn't matter if he can trust you or not. YOU can't trust HIM. Dump him and move on. 1.6k
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    Wretched_Vickyy1 • 16h Ah yes, the classic I'm not taking responsibility for my actions but I'll make you feel like it's your fault move. We've all been there. Д 158
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    Tamanna000 • 17h Kind of the same thing like checking the cheating partner's phone and finding out they are actually cheating. And then the cheater blames it on the victim for invading their privacy. 542
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    i_need_a_username201 • 12h That's the narcissist's way. "Let's ignore this major transgression I committed to focus on the really insignificant thing you did because this is all your fault." LPT: don't ever marry someone like this because divorce is expensive. 27
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    Hottie_HollyBaby • 17h girl. He's trying to deflect from his cheating by making it about your French skills. Don't fall for it! You deserve someone who's honest and faithful, not someone who blames you for their own mistakes Reply 2.4k
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    Legal-Ad7793 • 13h Definitely DARVO. Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender. He's just mad he got caught. Dump him and move on. ← 63
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    Flangian • 17h . oh no he cant trust you after he accidently admitted to cheating, you are an awful person for catching him out YWBTA to yourself if you even think of blaming yourself for anything in this situation. ... Reply 1753
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    BreezyBluejayo • 14h You're not to blame for your boyfriend's infidelity. His cheating is a reflection of his own character, not yours ... Reply Ŵ 11
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    Such_Manner_5518 • 15h Dump him in french Reply 10 ♡
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    Simple-Plankton4436 • 10h He is the AH for cheating but I would also say YTA for not disclosing that you can understand French - seems like you never trusted him. He has the right to know that you understand him, if he speaks to his family or friends. Not everything is meant for your ears e.g. if they share personal things or family drama that they wouldn't tell you normally. Of course it was a 'good' thing as he was caught but it was childish of you not to tell him that you speak French. All in
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    esh. 64bubbles 17h • every time you pretended not to know french, you were lying. you kept this up for 3 years. that's a big deal. but cheating is a worse crime. Reply û 20 ♡
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    Haaanginout ⚫ 12h • Girl, you are lucky af you heard that! Now leave so you don't catch anything!! Reply û 4 ♡
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    FenyxFire 7h He cheated on you with three different women that you know of and convinced you that you might be the biggest AH in this situation? Absolutely not. NTA. Leave him. This isn't a relationship that can be saved no matter the pretty apologies he might give, and rest assured, he needs to be the one apologizing regardless. But it won't save this relationship. He isn't sorry for cheating. He's sorry he got caught. He will do it again. ... Reply Ŵ 4 ♡ 43
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    BungCrosby • 17h He's absolutely double. 1. Not only was he I cheating on you, but he was flaunting doing so in front of you in a language he didn't know you understood. You are NTA. Reply 49.6k

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